I Think I Love My Spouse!

“Marriage is a lottery, but you can’t tear up your ticket if you lose.”

~Unknown

Says who?!  With many of the married couples I know, there seems to be a lot of contemplation about and/or tearing up of their ticket!  What used to be a one-way street into a lifetime of happiness, struggles and unity is now a super highway with the option to exit at every half mile!  How many couples do you know that entered marriage thinking, “We are going to give it a try and see what happens.  If it doesn’t work, we will just break it off.”?  This type of thinking used to be reserved for the daters, but now many are preparing for the absolute worst in a situation that SHOULD bring out your best.  If you are looking for all your exits before you even merge lives, is marriage really the option?  Then there are those who stay and still want to play!  Hay dios mio!  Does marriage mean anything anymore?! 

Lowered Expectations! Are You An Open Enrollment Chick?!

Welcome to “Lowered Expectations”!  Are you a woman with low to no standards?  Are you tired of not finding your "list" man and ready to accept whatever you can get?!  If this is you, you have come to the right place!  Browse our growing inventory stocked full of men who are often overlooked, hardly dated and underrated!  If you ever found yourself saying the following statements in your head—or even out loud—women we have the man for you!

• “You live with your parents?  No problem! I like basements and we can save money!”  ●
• “Oh you’re not working?  That’s cool, I just got a raise!”  ●
• “Are those man boobs?  I think I have an extra bra!”  ●
• “Missing a tooth?  We can use a Chiclet!”  ●
• “Boatload of kids?  I always wanted to be an Auntie!”  ●
• “Come up to my shoulder?  I probably need to stop wearing heels anyway!”  ●

Sound like you, then come on down so we can hook you up!  Remember our motto…

“Keep those standards low!”

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Ok, so maybe my little rendition of a ‘low standards’ dating service is a little dramatic J but there seem to be some new laws on the books that say women need to ease up with the standards.  In the past, I wrote a post about women with mile long lists of qualities they want in a man ( Are You Planning Your Love Away?!).  A recent online Essence article (Link To Article) got me thinking about the other end of the spectrum-- the women out there who are settling for men with qualities that can fit on a Post-It!  Now you know I couldn’t let this go!   

I Want You...But I Want You To Want Me Too!

“…I give you all the love
I want in return, sweet darlin'
But half a love is all I feel
It's too bad, it's too sad
You don't want me now
But I'm gonna change your mind
Someway, somehow, oh baby…”

~Marvin Gaye (“I Want You”)

If it's no, then keep it moving!

Be real with yourself, how often have you felt this way?!  Sometimes our obsession with wanting those who do not want us can leave us all messed up!  If you have ever been there, you have probably wasted too much time on wishful thinking, started to second-guess your qualities, forgot the importance of those who do care and the worst…possibly missed a mutually satisfying relationship with someone who WANTED to be there.  So sad these situations!  There is absolutely nothing cute about chasing someone who is clearly trying to get away from you!  Your prey is desperately running away while you are too preoccupied to notice who is chasing you!  Crazy stuff, but it does lead me to my point.  Your convincing may work and it may not, but you will suffer in the end.  Even though the pursuit of what we seemingly cannot have may be enticing, we deserve a relationship with someone who will reciprocate the same love we give to them.