Should A Woman EVER Propose?

She may be dragging
him now, but
he will be running off
later!

Many women would LOVE for the man of their dreams to propose at the beginning of the week and wed them by the end of it, IF they could have their perfect wedding.  Now, place the glass slipper on the other foot.  Imagine a woman proposing to a man on a Monday, throwing together a ceremony all week long and dragging him down the aisle by Friday!  That’s not even the best part: He doesn’t accept or deny the proposal when it is asked.  He gets less than a week to think about it, then answers on the day of the wedding!  Sounds ludicrous don’t it?!  Well, this is exactly what I watched last night on WE!  A sickening, psychologically damaging show called “Jilted?”, where the tradition-laden table is turned and the woman pops the question.  I witnessed a thirty-something woman with a biological clock ticking louder than Big Ben, force her confused and flabbergasted boyfriend of a year into a decision of a lifetime.  Then she threw their relationship away because he couldn’t marry her after a year and a week!  How insanely ridiculous?! 



Really chick?!
If you have to
ask, is it really
worth it?



In the words of radio personality Ed Lover, “C’mon son”!  This concept is far from new, but how desperately stupid are these women?!  Is the lure of being married that strong to make women lose their natural minds?  Maybe I’m a little bit country and the rest of the world is a little bit rock and roll, but some traditions have a profound purpose.  There is no way I would ask for a man’s hand in marriage!  Women SHOULD NOT have to!  For me, the reasons range from biblical to common sense.  The duties of men in relationships have already slipped to an all time low! (I plan to cover that tomorrowJ)  Why take away their opportunity to profess their love by choosing a wife?  What really got me about this particular episode was the boyfriend was blatantly not ready for the type of commitment she so desperately wanted.  I figure the rest of the men in future episodes share the same fear.  Otherwise, they would be running out and buying a ring to propose to their women!  This show displays the extreme of a common trait that women naturally possess…CONTROL.

Avoid that "deer in
headlights look"!
If he isn't ready, he isn't ready!



Head over to your local bookstore or library and locate the self-help section.  You will find aisles of books that coerce women to set elaborate traps and concoct manipulative schemes to “land a guy”, “trap that man”, “get the ring”, and “turn a bachelor into a blushing groom”.  Last time I checked, when you unwillingly trap something it will gnaw off its own foot to escape!  How unsexy is that?  What good can come out of forcing a man to be a husband?  It’s like taking a cake out the oven before it has risen!  This new method of dragging men down the aisle, with or without their approval, can only result in disaster.  Women have been tricking, manipulating and cornering men about commitment and marriage for a long time.  This incessant control of men needs to stop!  Every man put under pressure does not have the strength to withstand it.  Every ultimatum has an opt-out button.  If a person isn’t ready, they just aren’t ready!  Even if they go along with it, you may get the wedding of your dreams only to have the life of your nightmares.  It’s not worth it.

Smart choices make
for stronger
marriages. 
Force is never smart.

I truly hope and pray that this show "Jilted?", serves a specific purpose of one thing…PREVENTION!  Prevention of making rash decisions that can affect your entire life.  Prevention of women forcing men to profess their love through marriage.  Prevention of men wasting women’s time.  Prevention of increasing the already high divorce rate.  If you are a woman thinking of popping the question to land your man, think again!  If a man is not willing to choose you, make the choice to choose yourself!  You deserve love and a traditional proposal so you don’t have to guess if he really wants a lifelong commitment.  For those women looking forward to a HUGE, grandiose wedding and you really don’t care about the marriage…throw a party for yourself!  Rent a hall, buy a fabulous dress, invite friends and fam, pop some champagne, play some music and celebrate life!  You don’t need an excuse, you don’t need to worry about lying to God about a fake union and you don’t need to worry about whether it will last.  Men, if you aren’t ready for a commitment and your woman is watching wedding shows getting all teary, at least be honest with her about where you are mentally.  Ladies and gents… 

IF YOUR RELATIONSHIP ISN'T STRONG ENOUGH, IT DOESN'T MATTER WHO GETS DOWN ON ONE KNEE!  PLEASE GET YOUR PRIORITIES STRAIGHT BEFORE ENTERING A DEAD-END MARRIAGE!